If one more person tells me to “DO WHAT YOU L♥VE”…I’m Gonna Lose My SH*T!

Gen X

text message from the universe telling you life is about the journey

“Do what you LOVE!” How many times have you heard this? As if it were just that simple. It’s not. Believe me, I’ve tried.

**DISCLAIMER** I am that girl who tells you to “do what you love.” Yep. I am that girl guilty of posting, pinning, and everything in between thoughts, quotes, declarations of doing what you love. If curating the best inspirational “do what you love” quotes and pinning them was a job I would rival Zuckerbug in earnings.

Pins like this make me happy! Unfortunately, they do not help in finding what you love to do.

The “Do What You Love” Mantra

Don’t get me wrong, I believe in the motto “Do what you love” but I think it has become overstated and grossly overused. What if you don’t know wtf you want to do? What if you’ve tried and you STILL don’t know what your passion is?

If you are lucky enough to know, you may not be acting on it for one of a million reasons (Read: FEAR: fear of what people will think, fear of failure, fear of losing money, fear of looking like a total loser, you get the picture).

I know personally, I have felt frustration and feelings of failure because how could I not figure out my passion, my purpose; what I loved to do? I mean seriously how does one not know what they love to do?! Although people tell me I should write, and in theory, I enjoy writing, it took me nearly four weeks to complete this blog post.

Isn’t doing what you love supposed to be easy and effortless?

I also have this thing called self-doubt. That doesn’t work too well when you want people to read your writing.

If only it were that easy.

As I diligently “researched” what I loved to do, I was reminded of my childhood, as so often mentioned in books and articles about finding and doing “what you love.” There is only one problem…I am not particularly fond of the idea of turning into my second-grade teacher persona “Ashley McClain” (my alter ego in elementary school). Furthermore, my performances of “We Are Family,” “Shake Your Groove Thing,” and “I Am Woman Hear Me Roar,” to my mother were atrocious. Moreover, I’m convinced I was high when I wanted to play “Dry Cleaning Register Girl.”

Apparently I loved to model, but Playboy hasn’t reached out to me yet.

I did all of the self-help exercises, I colored my parachute purple, yellow, orange, and green. I listed pros and cons of my last jobs. I attempted to meditate — several times. Epic fail unless you count moving around and your mind not shutting up for 20 minutes as success. I took walks hoping for inspiration. I asked my higher self but she was at happy hour. I pinned my ever-lovin ass off until I realized that was part of the problem – I was pinning instead of doing.

In fact, I was doing everything to avoid doing anything at all that actually would result in some sort of meaningful action.

BUT then a couple of years ago you know what I did? I started DOING! I started executing some of my ideas. I wrote this blog in 2014 on medium. You are now reading the updated version on my own personal blog website. I got here by DOING.

Stop reading, stop learning, stop talking about it, stop daydreaming, and START DOING.

To date, I’ve started at least six different “projects.” I would call them businesses but according to the definition: “the practice of making one’s living by engaging in commerce” it would not be entirely accurate — the making one’s living anyway. It wasn’t like I could quit my day job!  But ya know what, so what!  


Even though it’s hard, even though it’s scary, even when you fuck up, (insert the “it’s all about the journey” quote). Man, if I had a dime every time I heard that. Oh wait, I think I pinned that.

text message from the universe telling you life is about the journey
Thanks, Universe. That’s really inspiring…and helpful. *sideye*

There is good news though!

I know with 100% certainty that DOING works. tinybubblesblog.com would not exist if I had not kept doing and following my bliss (another quote that I could punch in the face).  Don’t believe me? Then trust the researchers at Harvard who studied motivation and discovered that… 

PROGRESS is the biggest motivator. 

One baby step leads to the next. That is DOING. Progress is made when you are DOING.

I cannot tell you the amount of times I had to convince myself to write when I wanted to be doing anything else (this never goes away by the way, it’s all part of the journey. 😉 It’s so much easier to take the “comfortable” road of scrolling endlessly on Instagram, pinning inspirational quotes (that you’ll end up being annoyed at), drinking wine, numbing away the stress of the day.

But….the best part of doing is LEARNING! Discovering what you like, learning new skills, and facing fear in its ugly face.  Realizing you are capable and you can do “hard things” as my fave Glennon Doyle often says.   Learning means making mistakes and that is okay because you are actually DOING and I promise you, if you are DOING — you are way ahead of the game. Most people are either dreaming, scrolling, reading, or talking shit about how they could do it better even though they haven’t tried. I know this because I was that person and every so often I still have to check myself.

But…. there’s this one little caveat…that NO ONE talks about…

Insert a gigantic frosted mug of WTF do I do now?!

Mug not for sale.

NOW GO ON, GET!!!!!!!!!!!!!

START DOING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is one simple, tiny, little action you could take today to either explore what you’re passionate about or toward a project that you are working on?

Set a timer for 30 minutes, turn off social media, and get to it!!!

Peace, love & Prosecco, with a side of “do what you love:)”


PS I’d love to hear about your progress or lack thereof. We’ve all been there.



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Southern California girl, originally from Oregon, I knew early on I needed to be around palm trees and the ocean. I've been here about 10 years and love the laidback, carefree lifestyle. I live in leggings and am obsessed with all things athleisure, cool kicks and beach vibes. I am also a justice warrior, lover of salt, Sauv Blanc and Red Lobster biscuits. Tiny Bubbles blog is about the freedom to be who you were before society told you who to be.Open minds, expletives and female empowerment live here. If that is you, welcome to the Tiny Bubbles brigade!

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